Shit Talking, Explained

To be specific, I mean shit talking about someone that you consider your friend, not shit talking about a person you dislike.  If you say something negative about someone you don't like, that isn't really shit talking, that's just what your opinion is.  But when you say negative things about someone you otherwise will hang out with on a regular basis, enjoy their company, respect their opinion, and love (or really just like), it's a little more complicated, but I think I figured it out.

"Hold on, Man, I need to make sure no one 

can hear what we're talking about."

I realized the other day that the reason why I, personally, talk shit about people I consider to be close friends or whom I love is because I care about them.  I think that I see these things that are negative parts of their personality or something that they have done that is going to or is negatively affecting them, or other people, and it makes me feel bad.  Instead of expressing my concern to the person, because confrontation is scary and overly confrontational people are very scary, I just go talk to someone else about it.  People judge each other for a lot of reasons, but one of them must be concern for the other person, right?  This is especially useful when the judgment isn't constructive, it's just a thing you feel and need to express somehow.

It's just too bad that's it's so negative.

But it's like complaining about your family to your friends.  And I'm sure everyone has heard this before, but when a person bitches about his or her family, it's just getting something off his or her chest.  As soon as another person starts saying negative things about your family more likely than not you'll kick the shit out of them.  I know I do.  I've gone to jail a few times for that reason. (jk, lol).

Hopefully this isn't just me trying to make up for being an asshole.  Maybe it is... I guess we'll never know.




Arg, I'm just am an asshole.  God DAMN IT. >:(